How do I know if my girlfriend is bisexual?

Dear Al,

I have been dating a wonderful woman for about a year and a half. Our sex life I would say is quite good. In fact, better than good. She is uninhibited and open-minded.

I believe that may be part of my quandary.

She will never allow me in her bedroom, stating that it is always a mess and she is embarrassed for me to see it.

She recently went on a boy scout hike in the mountains. After the boys had already left that morning, she drove up that evening with a girlfriend because she stated that they both had to work that day and they couldn't leave as early as the intended departure. She also added that if they got tired from the long days work and long drive they would stop at a motel for the night and join the scouts in the morning.

In packing for the trip, she openly packed some provocative, yet tasteful panties, stating to me that the other ladies at the campsite can see that she too has some nice things besides a used car and a house full of beat up furniture.

Am I being a bit paranoid (I went through a nasty divorce, where my then wife vehemently denied her cheating; even at the very end, when I had hours of 16 mm. celluloid that proved otherwise). Or is my present lady bisexual and would prefer not to be blatant about it, but doesn't particularly care what I think?

Thank you,

Curious..................

* * * * *

Dear Curious,

It's funny how many people write, wondering how they can know something about their S.O.s Here's a clue: ASK THEM.

Anyhow, I think you're asking the wrong question. The right question is, "Is my girlfriend cheating on me?"

Would it make a difference to you whether she's having sex with other women or with other men?

If it wouldn't, then whether she's bi is not the issue. As you say, you've been a victim of cheating and you're concerned about being in that place again.

Or would it be OK if she were bi and you're just hoping to turn it into a M-F-M threesome (there we go again!) ?

Last option is that it would be OK with you if she were bi and having sex with women, but you'd just like to know and have it be an honest relationship.

Decide which it is and that will guide your actions.

Al

P.S. - She may really have a messy bedroom. Are you thinking that if you saw it there would be evidence of her bisexuality? I guess if she had a rack of strap-ons...

Gay Or Bi?

About 3 years ago, I started becoming attracted to men and wondering what it would be like to be with a man. I was over at my brother's one evening, telling him about my feelings. That I was attracted to men and that I wanted to suck a man's cock and see if that was what I really wanted.
My brother is gay and has a lover that I am attracted to. That night we watched gay porn together and I became very aroused. I started playing with my brother's lover's cock and before I knew it, I went down on him. He's about 8 inches. I couldn't stop, I liked it so much.
I have been with another man and I enjoyed being with him, too. All I think about is having sex with him. I've been marred for 33 years and I'm not attracted to her anymore. The only thing I can think about is the feel of a man next to me and his cock in my mouth. His hot cum.
Please answer if you can.
Thanks,
TS
---------------------
Dear TS:
Look at you, ya big cock suckin' queen, you! sounds like you could give us all a lesson on suckage, huh?
I take it your wife doesn't know about your new procolivity? Why haven't you told her? What are you afraid will happen? Are you ready to end this relationship and move into this new phase of your life?
See, here's the thing, you want to always treat people as you would want to be treated. If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you want to know? Is this a secret that you'd want kept from you? I suspect it isn't.
Weigh the consequences of your actions and all of the possible outcomes. Address your fears and figure out how best to proceed. If you know in your heart you want to live your life as a gay man, that's a beautiful choice, too. I'm sure she would appreciate being in a relationship with a man who genuinely wants to be with her, too.
After 33-years of marriage, I hope you can speak honestly and lovingly, so that you can both move forward and build happy lives. Who knows, maybe ya's could even be friends!
Please keep me posted.
Love,
AF