More on Threesomes

Seems it's the season for 19-year-old women to think about threesomes...

Dear Al,

I have been seeing a man for the past 6 months. He is 29, I am 19. We have a wonderful, active and adventurous sex life. He wants to have a threesome with another girl. I am interested in it yet I do not know if I can deal with the jealousy that could arise during and after the act occurs. Any advice?

-Confused but excited

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Dear Confused,

What man doesn't want to have a 3some with another girl? The first thing you need to know is whether his intention is for totally straight interaction (i.e. you and the other girl doing stuff with him but not each other) or if he is looking for some girl-on-girl action as well. If you don't have any interest in the latter, that should be understood before any further consideration.

As to jealousy you need to get very honest with yourself. Are you thinking you'll be OK, but are just aware that jealousy can arise? Or are you already feeling jealous just at the thought of him kissing and oh-so-much-more with another woman right in front of you? If the former, then perhaps you should try it once, and with a relative stranger (see this post). Hey, if it doesn't work out, you don't do it again, but it probably won't permanently damage your relationship. But if you know you are likely to be jealous this just won't work.

If you decide to try it, I would exact a quid-pro-quo from the BF. Whether you really think you want this or not, make sure he'll agree that the next 3some is M-F-M. If he's not willing to cater to your fantasies and pleasure as much as you are for him, there's a message for you.

Good luck, and when you're ready for that M-F-M action... let me know!

Al