A few weeks ago, I got an email from Bunny, asking me about sex after gender reassignment surgery (You will find the answer to Bunny's original query in a separate post). We got to chatting via email and she's such a lovely bird. She's very direct and comfortable with herself and the choice that she's made to become a woman.
I asked her if she would let me interview her because let's face it, we all have a million questions, don't we? When you know you're trapped inside a body that doesn't belong to you. Sexual desires and concerns post-op, and of course the transition process. So, I hocked. We dished.
Meet the Goddess that is... Bunny
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Aspasia: Though you were born a man, at what age do you recall feeling like a woman?
Bunny: At the very early age of 7, I recall putting on my moms compressed foundation face powder and looking into the mirror and feeling a connection, much like a jigsaw piece fitting into another jigsaw piece until the puzzle is complete. I felt an intimate connection with my mother and was able to easily reach out to other women and identify with them.
Aspasia: How did you deal with the conflict of feeling like a woman, but being a biological male?
Bunny: I could easily relate to and regard my female side as my sensitive side. As I grew up, that evolved into sensuality. I always admired women for their intelligence and their beauty as well as their sensitivity.
Aspasia: Were you attracted to men, women or both?
Bunny: I was and remain attracted to both men and women. I am more attracted to women because of their sensitivity and sensuality.
Aspasia: At what age did you start living like a woman?
Bunny: At the age of 25 is when I felt it was right to start living as a transvestite or a she-male. I did that for 10 years.
Aspasia: What was that transition like?
Bunny: Transition wasn’t easy because of my body had physical limitations coping with the HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy). Once my body could handle the HRT, I was able to deal with the cosmetic aspects of transitioning, like facial hair removal via Laser Hair removal & voice retraining.
Aspasia: How long does the physical transition take?
Bunny: It varies from person to person. Mine took 7-years. When I first started, I was taking the medication for a physical gender change, not the operation. The physical gender change was the forming of my hips, the fattening of my legs and the feminising of my face and other factors, too.
Aspasia: What made you decide to have the operation?
Bunny: I wasn’t going to per se. Over time, when I saw that other women could describe their physical experiences, and my girlfriend, as in best friend girlfriend, encouraged me, I was able to be my true self. Had I not had that encouragement, I would forever wonder what would’ve been. In the end, I decided to go for the operation and I’m glad I did.
Aspasia: Did you share this with your family? If so, how did they react?
Bunny: My family didn’t like it at all. They have not been able to come to terms with my choice, despite many meetings with them to find a compromise. After 3 years of going back and forth, I decided that my happiness was more of a priority than compromising for my family. After all, I could still talk to my family over the phone. Meeting face to face was and still is out of the question. This is the compromise I had to live and the sacrifice I had to make in order to be happy. To this day they are happy with this compromise.
Aspasia: What were your hopes related to the operation and what were your fears?
Bunny: That I would die on the operating table! But, I went under general anesthetic as a man. I passed out within10 seconds and woke up three hours later as a woman.
Aspasia: What do you have to go through to transition physically from male to female?
Bunny:
1) I had to change my name from male to female
2) I had to get a referral from my General Practitioner to the gender identity clinic
3) I had to live as a woman full-time for 2 years and had to work or take a volunteer position as a woman.
4) I had to convince the NHS (National Health System), known as the PCT (Primary Care Trust) to fund my gender assignment surgery on the NHS.
Aspasia: Now that you are a full fledged vadge, how does it feel?
Bunny: It really feels sensational and like a silky beautiful kitty! Much like this HOT-WET-SEA! For me it was well worth the wait. Now I don’t need to cover myself up or feel embarrassed or awkward at the prospect of being discovered. I’m not in pain. I don’t have to compromise. Now, I can appreciate the vulnerability aspect a woman might feel meeting a man. I can also relate more when women talk of this instead of me being annoyed that they cannot trust me.
Asapasia: Sexually, what are you looking forward to?
Bunny: Being lovingly and gently touched and gently penetrated. BUT, intelligent conversation IS A MUST FIRST!
Aspasia: Sexually, what are you most concerned about?
Bunny: Sexual Diseases. But, since I am always getting myself checked, this shouldn’t be an issue. I’m just very mindful of it. Also, I must learn that I need to go slow in terms of finding someone. I need to heal and rebuild my confidence. I’m reinventing myself!
Ain't she a hunny that Bunny?! if you have questions for Bunny, please feel free to email me or leave a comment in the comment section and Bunny will respond.
Thank you, Bunny!!!
