Hi,Let's start with a tiny back story:
I dated this guy for a while (9 months) but he was my first boyfriend, so nothing really happened because both of us were afraid. We broke up and about a year later he dated my best friend.
Now, lately, I've been talking to someone I know through a friend. We've talked on the Internet, but nothing in the nature of the cuddling or obviously flirtatious actions have occurred. The man that I had been dating for nine months has suddenly become very...clingy. I don't know why, but he has. And it hasn't been with everybody either, just me. Now, this is confusing me. It's not just that he's being all cuddly and whatnot.
It's that HE is the one initiating everything. When I noticed it, we were at our friend's house for a small movie night. Needless to say, the movie didn't get watched. My friends all decided to act like children and have a pillow fight. I didn't get to participate, however, because he and I had disappeared to pet the dog and then decided to hide when they realized we were gone. We managed to stay hidden for about an hour and a half.
He got the bright idea to trick them into thinking we'd had sex. Nothing extravagant. Just a few messed clothes and fluffed hair. Our friends tend to jump to conclusions when they see some skin from one and a shirt going back on the other. But ever since then, he's been unusually...close.
Also, when we were talking about what we were looking for (romantically of course) he had made some comment about "friends-with-benefits."I'm wondering what to do. If I should go back to him if that's what he's looking for... or if I should meet the one I've been talking to online and see how things go?
Please offer just a tiny bit of a nudge,
Oddly Confused Woman
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Dear Oddly Confused Woman:
You know, doll, I don't think you have to go making decisions at this juncture. There seems to be a lot of mutual flirtation from both your online and offline dick. Why not enjoy both and see where they take you? You seem to be enjoying both.
Be candid and honest with both. You've never met the online guy. Now, I know I don't HAVE to say this, but I'm going to. If you meet him, please make sure that you meet in a well lit crowded venue. The Internet is an exciting place, but it can also be dangerous if we don't have our wits about us. Be smart. Capisce?
Have fun. Be safe and be honest. It's all about the journey, not the destination. Cliche enough? Still. It's very true.
Good luck.
Love,
AF
