The sensitive type

Hey heyy,

This is a embarrassing topic for me to bring up, but I'm sure I am not the only man with this problem and I really would like some advice! I've never been circumcised and have lots of foreskin. Whenever the foreskin is lowered and the head of the penis is touched without the foreskin is touched, it's very sensitive and can even be painful at times.

A long while back I used to think it was normal until my very first girlfriend told me no guy she had ever been with had the same problem. Boy did I feel different! I've never gone all the way and had full sex with a women, (saving the V for the wife!) but I've gotten other things done by women like oral, and handjobs, and we've simply just done things more carefully. i sometimes masturbate using condoms, but stopped because it hurt to much to get it on because the foreskin becomes uncovered and the head gets touched.

Generally when I masturbate its with the foreskin totally covering the penis, and don't really allow it to become uncovered until i'm done. I've seen products such as spray on desensitizers at adult shops but I did not want to use any products that I didn't know about, just in case it made things worse. A friend of mine told me I should get it checked out from a doctor and as horrible as this sounds as a guy I'd find it really difficult bringing it up with him!

I know that as time goes by I really should do something about this, The sensitivity over the years has not diminished. For the first time I bought a sex toy, the other day (a imitation vagina) and could not even use that! While it seems laughable its something that's really hard to come to terms with. I keep thinking what am i going to do when it comes to actually having sex? Is there anything you know about this topic that could help? Is the pain and sensitivity normal? What are things I could do to de-sensitise it?

thanks-
sensitive and concerned

Dear Sensitive,

Sorry, I'm a son of Abraham so have no experience with the foreskin. But any man reading this will understand the embarrassment you feel. Nonetheless, you simply must have this checked out by a doctor. Sensitivity is normal but pain is not.

Believe me, as we age the medical stuff just gets more embarrassing and if you wish to stay healthy you have to get used to it. Nothing like a lady doctor palpating your balls and sticking a lubed finger up your ass. I promise it is not sexy.

You have to look into this because you have one life and you should do whatever you can to derive the sexual pleasure we all deserve. Also, there's a small chance that you have a serious condition that would affect more than sex. I'd recommend getting a referral to an urologist. While waiting for your appointment, do some online searching-- it's not a replacement for seeing a doc, but might educate you or help you with questions to ask before you do.

If any of our readers have further advice, please post to comments!

Al